Adult Child of Divorce

If you are an adult child of divorce, I’m hosting a solo podcast especially for you. Whether your parents divorced when you were a little child, teen, or even an adult, I have encouragement for you.

Are You an Adult Child of Divorce?

Many resources exist for people who are divorcing, and even for children whose parents are divorcing. But there are precious few resources specifically for us, though we deal with the fallout of our parents’ divorces for the rest of our lives.

I’m a child of divorce who has lived through two of my parents’ divorces and three remarriages. I was also married for 21 years to another child of divorce. Both of us had been permanently affected by the divorces, and it was difficult for us to navigate our marriage due to these traumas. It’s sad that our marriage ended in a messy divorce in March 2022, but I’ve learned much about being an adult child of divorce from my struggles.

My podcast, Heart in a Drawer, is created for you. Gain weekly encouragement in your relationship with God, your spouse, your children, and yes, your parents too. I need it myself, and I pray it will be a blessing to you.

I don’t host guests on my show, because I know we have a lot of private pain to process. It’s like an intimate conversation between you and me. I want to be the friend who sits with you, one on one, to affirm your hurts and point you toward healing in Christ. And, I’m honored to pray for you personally if you send a prayer request HERE.

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Access all episodes in this quick guide:

Episode 80: When Your Life Is a Legit Soap Opera

If you’re facing major drama that you don’t want at the holidays, this episode is for you.

Episode 79: When Gratitude Isn’t Cutting It

If your gratitude feels stilted, here’s why that might be happening and what you can do about it.

Episode 78: Are You Hiding from Love?

A discussion based on a teaching in one of my favorite books of all time.

Episode 77: Becoming Like a Child

Why it matters for us to have a childlike spirit, and how to recapture yours.

Episode 76: When You Experience a False Victory

False victories can happen in our stories, and here’s how to handle them when you experience them.

Episode 75: Which Is Harder to Complete: Marriage or Divorce?

A question posed by a Facebook friend stirred my thoughts, which I share on this episode.

Episode 74: Overcoming Father Wounds

My friend Kia Stephens has written an excellent book on this topic, and this is my book review.

Episode 73: Trust by Dr. Henry Cloud

Dr. Henry Cloud’s books have helped me so much in my healing journey, and this new one is a gem.

Episode 72: How Trust Is Medicine

Trust can be medicine to us on our healing journeys.

Episode 71: Why You Need a Love Exchange with God

Adult children of divorce can have trouble receiving and giving love to God, yet here’s how you can start doing it.

Episode 70: What Is Broken Heart Syndrome?

Though I hadn’t heard of this before, I had it twice this year. Learn about it with me.

Episode 69: How to Do a Throne Room Prayer

A throne room prayer is a powerful way to heal your relationships and yourself.

Episode 68: How to Be a Chainbreaker

How you can break the chains of generational curses in your family.

Episode 67: Is It OK for a Good Girl to Get Angry with God?

I make my case based on vulnerable stories in my personal life.

Episode 66: Is It Unforgiveness or PTSD?

You may not be able to forgive until you deal with the trauma you’ve faced.

Episode 65: Rerouting the Rivers of Your Thoughts

You can reroute your thoughts, but it takes a lot of effort. Here’s what to do.

Episode 64: Learning How to Handle Anger from Negative Examples

We can learn much from the negative examples of others.

Episode 63: Do You Need an Anger Card?

Explore this unique concept I learned from Dr. David Clarke.

Episode 62: Are You Facing Pushback and Criticism?

Learn how to stand firm against the flak you receive for doing the right thing.

Episode 61: Managing Your Anxious Attachment Style

This is my attachment style and what I’m doing to manage it better.

Episode 60: When Do You Cut Off a Relationship?

Sadly, I had to cut off relationships this year. Here’s how you know when to do it.

Episode 59: The Cost of Passivity

Passivity stole so much from me. Learn how you can identify and overcome it.

Episode 58: Let’s Talk About Emotional Abuse

I’ve been a victim of emotional abuse my entire life. Here’s what it looks like.

Episode 57: The Collateral Damage of Infidelity

Infidelity is the reason for so many divorces. If it has affected you, please listen to this episode.

Episode 56: Why I Still Believe in Marriage

Even in my messy divorce, I still believe in marriage, and here’s why.

Episode 55: Let’s Talk About Alcoholism

Alcoholism is a wrecking ball in many of our stories.

Episode 54: There Is Life in Death

In this episode, I speak of my own divorce for the first time.

January 2022 Quick Announcement

Episode 53: Forgiveness Is a Gift

Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.

Episode 52: Unexpected Grief at the Holidays

Affirmation and comfort for you.

Episode 51: Finding Peace in Christmas Past

Based on my guest post for (in)courage.

Episode 50: 7 Affirming Declarations

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Episode 49: Redeeming Heartache

An episode on my favorite book of 2021 out of over 100 books.

Episode 48: How to Have That Difficult Conversation

Learn much from this book by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend.

Episode 47: Confronting Without Offending

Wisdom from Deborah Smith Pegues.

Episode 46: Getting Along with Your Siblings

Navigate the tricky waters of getting along with adult siblings – full, half and step.

Episode 45: 7 Tips for Navigating the Holidays

7 Tips for Navigating the Holidays will help you start this season with greater confidence as an adult child of divorce.

Quick Announcement

Episode 44: Sweet Like Jasmine

A unique memoir from Bonnie Gray, a fellow child of divorce.

Episode 43: Try Softer, Part 2

Episode 42: Try Softer, Part 1

A thorough look at Aundi Kolber’s book, Try Softer.

Episode 41: Your Home Can Be a Hub

Your home can be a hub of redemption as an adult child of divorce.

Episode 40: Hope Anyway, Part 2

Episode 39: Hope Anyway, Part 1

Join me for a book discussion on finding hope as an adult child of divorce.

Episode 38: How to Handle Summer Loneliness

Affirmation and practical tips for you.

Episode 37: The Body Keeps the Score, Part 3

Three practical strategies to help you, plus printable breath prayers and biblical affirmations.

Episode 36: The Body Keeps the Score, Part 2

EMDR therapy may help you overcome past trauma.

Episode 35: The Body Keeps the Score, Part 1

Learn how today’s aches and pains may be related to your past trauma.

Episode 34: Help for the Highly Sensitive Person

Insight for you or someone you love who is highly sensitive.

Episode 33: What Is a Genogram?

This tool can give you helpful insight for healing.

Episode 32: The Importance of Mentors

Mentorship is a powerful healing tool for adult children of divorce.

Episode 31: You Have Permission to Pray In Any Way Needed

Honest, vulnerable, open prayer is necessary for our healing.

Episode 30: Bridging the Generation Gap

Learn how different generations perceive marriage and vulnerability.

Episode 29: Recognizing Your Blind Spots

Practical tips to help you recognize hidden problem areas.

Episode 28: Using Brain Science to Change Your Thoughts

Fascinating and empowering information to help you today!

Episode 27: How to Handle Trigger Ages

What to do when your past trauma is triggered by your child’s age.

Episode 26: The Do’s and Don’ts of Step-Parenting

Lessons I’ve learned from almost 40 years as a step-child.

Episode 25: Passing Your Faith On To Your Child

Practical resources to help you, including a new, free Bible study written by me.

Episode 24: What Do You Teach Your Children?

Tips on what to teach your children about family divorces.

Episode 23: Handling Anger in Marriage

This marriage tip can change everything for you – it worked for me!

Episode 22: Fighting Selfishness in Marriage

Find out why this is such a tough problem as an adult child of divorce.

Episode 21: Spiritual Warfare in Marriage

Learn how spiritual warfare is affecting your marriage.

Episode 20: Knowing Your Spouse’s Triggers

The first episode in a 4-part marriage series.

Episode 19: No More Scapegoats

Learn what a scapegoat is, based on the Bible, and how to heal from this dysfunction.

Episode 18: No More Relational Triangles

Understanding triangulation and how it costs you in your relationships.

Episode 17: Placing Your Trust in God

Gain encouragement from two classic Christian books.

Episode 16: How We Handle Our Pain

Powerful insights from the book, Take Your Life Back.

Episode 15: Reflecting on Lessons of 2020

Get your free 3-page printable to help you reflect on this year’s lessons.

Episode 14: Praying at the Holidays

Gain greater peace through prayer before gathering with your family.

Episode 13: Handling Drama at the Holidays

You can greatly reduce family drama this holiday season with these tips.

Episode 12: Hurt or Offended at the Holidays

Learn the difference between hurt and offense, and how to handle both.

Episode 11: Trauma at the Holidays

How to recognize and handle trauma at the holidays.

Episode 10: Relational Reset

Three great questions from Dr. Laurel Shaler’s book, Relational Reset

Episode 9: Forgiving What You Can’t Forget

A preview of Lysa TerKeurst’s book, Forgiving What You Can’t Forget

Episode 8: The Pain of Annulment

If your parents annulled their marriage, this can cause feelings of hurt, betrayal and more.

Episode 7: How to Fight Bitterness

It’s important for us to fight bitterness against the situations we never wanted.

Episode 6: Handling Loneliness, Part 2

More tips on handling the loneliness we experience.

Episode 5: Handling Loneliness, Part 1

Practical tips for handling the inherent loneliness we experience as ACODs.

Episode 4: What’s Your Attachment Style?

Attachment styles and emotional maturity – my most popular episode ever

Episode 3: Handling the Fear of Abandonment

Ways to handle this all-too-common fear.

Episode 2: What Do You Do With the Photos?

What do you do with photos of your parents’ marriage?

Episode 1: Heart in a Drawer Podcast

The who, what, why, where, when and how of this podcast

Intro to Heart in a Drawer Podcast

Transforming Your Thought Life

 

Transforming Your Thought Life

After I wrote the book, Transforming Your Thought Life: Christian Meditation in Focus, I realized that each of these thought life problems stem from the wounds I experienced as a child of divorce. God’s Word truly has the power to help us overcome. The book covers 17 common thought life problems that we can overcome with God’s help. I pray that my book will help you overcome in these thought life areas too. Check out this page for more information.

More Encouragement for You

Find more encouragement on these related posts:

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God’s Refrigerator

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