Episode 18: No More Relational Triangles

What is triangulation, and how is it hurting you as an adult child of divorce? That’s what we’re discussing today on Episode 18: Heart in a Drawer, the podcast for adult children of divorce.

Episode 18 Heart in a Drawer Show Notes

Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

1:15

This podcast is anchored to a chapter in one of my favorite books, Boundaries, which I highly recommend to you. The discussion is in the chapter called “Boundaries and Your Family.”

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2:00

Here are some simple illustrations to help you understand how triangulation works.

Step 1 of Triangulation

Step 2 of Triangulation

Step 3 of Triangulation

Healthy Communication

7:40

My popular post, Why Gossip Is So Appealing and So Destructive, can help you overcome this problem.

8:30

Scriptures to counteract triangulation from the NIV 1984 translation:

He who rebukes a man will in the end gain more favor than he who has a flattering tongue.

Proverbs 28:23

Do not hate your brother in your heart. Rebuke your neighbor frankly so you will not share in his guilt.

Leviticus 19:17

Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift.

Matthew 5: 23-24

If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you.

Matthew 18:15

12:40

The scripture I’m referring to is this one:
Without wise leadership, a nation falls; there is safety in having many advisers.

Proverbs 11:14 NLT

16:00

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22:47

Safe People

Want to discover who the safe people are in your life? I recommend this gem by Dr. Cloud and Dr. Townsend, which has saved me many a heartache since I read it!

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Episode 18 Heart in a Drawer

 

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Episode 18 Heart in a Drawer

Episode 18 Heart in a Drawer

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No More Relational Triangles

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