Welcome! I’m glad you’ve joined me for day 1 of this 10-day series, “How to Be the Wife He Really Wants.”
Do you know God masterfully designed you to be a helper?
In our fast-paced world, wives still typically bear the brunt of homemaking, even if both husband and wife work outside the home. This is true in my marriage, and sometimes I feel weary as a helper, especially when I forget the importance of my role.
Think of all the ways we wives help build our homes and marriages. We cook and clean. We run errands, pay bills, shop for groceries and clothing, and take care of sick children. We decorate our spaces to create beauty and warmth. We provide the nurturing environment for relationships to thrive. We are the heart of our homes.
Do you know how much God appreciates your help?
Look at this scripture:
The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18 NIV
By creating Eve, God provided a helper for Adam. She was perfectly designed to be fruitful and multiply when joined to Adam (Gen. 1:28). She was also designed to help Adam fulfill his calling to rule over the earth and subdue it (Gen. 1:28) and to work in and take care of the Garden of Eden (Gen. 2:15).
This verse calls to mind my great-grandparents’ marriage of over 60 years. My great-grandpa was a farmer and my great-grandma was his right-hand gal. He tended the fields and animals; she raised their children and cooked, cleaned, and mended, caring for the chickens and the garden too. Their roles on the farm were inextricably linked, and my great-grandpa deeply appreciated all the ways my great-grandma helped him succeed.
In today’s fast-paced world of 2017, my husband and I work in separate worlds most of the day. He builds houses; I work as a school secretary. And yet our roles are very similar to God’s original design. My husband’s primary calling is work; my primary calling as a wife is at home. I’m the primary cook, cleaner, and mender of relationships.
A part of me wishes for a slower, simpler time when our roles as husband and wife would overlap more often, as they did for my great-grandparents. I can’t go backward in time, but I can look for ways to help my husband now in ways he appreciates, like with these five practical tasks:
- Find paperwork he requests right away (don’t put it off!)
- Make his favorite meals and desserts at least once a week
- Help him with his laundry (in my house, each person does their own)
- Keep spaces free of clutter, which annoys him more than it does me
- Pick up his prescriptions
What practical step can you take today to be a helper to YOUR husband? I would love to hear your suggestions in the comments below!
Join me tomorrow for Day 2, “Be His Visual Delight.”
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